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To Be Alone… It’s Okay!

by Charles Wm. Skillas, PhD, DD, BCH, CI, FNGH, MCCHt


Some men and many women come to me complaining of being depressed and lonely as their lives are empty, because they have no “significant other” to share it with. They believe their happiness depends on someone else sharing their lives and if only this “wonderful” someone was with them, they would be “fulfilled and happy”.

Of course, this is not true. Our happiness never depends on others. This dependency feeling reflects our security needs. Within the need for security is the fear of poverty, of old age, of ill health, of criticism, and the fear of death. So, loneliness depression is really related to security. In hypnosis we can strengthen the ego by reprogramming the subconscious, but it doesn’t work well unless the person is clear of all Negative Forcing Functions (Subconscious Negative Energy Sources) because the old dependency programs are constantly energized by the Sources and new independence programs are overridden.

I recently had a case involving a very depressed young woman of 40 who wanted to die because she couldn’t find a man to share her life. I released the Negative Sources in her including entities, present and past life issues, and internal conflicts and then tried ego strength reprogramming, with some success. She greatly improved on the issues stemming from her released Negative Sources, but she was still unhappy being alone.

Because she was now clear, I was able to get her High Self to provide visions of previous lifetimes that affected her loneliness issue. In one past life, she lived happily in Mediterranean Crete. Her father married her off to a Northern Lord, requiring her to move to a cold country where the people were unfriendly and her husband mostly ignored her. She was unhappy. After he died, she moved back to beautiful Crete and was happy for the rest of her life living among friendly people, developing many friends and engaging in intellectual stimulation and work. In a 2nd past life, she was the daughter of a tyrant who treated both she and her mother with contempt and cruelty. She finally married to get away from her father, only to find her husband was like him. He finally died and she moved to a pleasant climate with friendly people and developed relationships and work, which made her happy.

These wise visions provided by her High Self clicked within causing her to understand that just being married didn’t bring happiness… actually, here it caused unhappiness. Her happiness came by taking charge of her life, living where she liked and engaging in satisfying relationships and work. This deep perception changed her life and she is now happy with just herself.

 

Disclaimer:
This article is intended for general informational purposes
and does not provide medical, psychological, or other professional advice.


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