Katrina caused terrible damage to lives and property
in the Gulf States. So many people were displaced from
their homes, lost all or most of their possessions and
suffered the loss of loved ones. In the aftermath of
the storm and the recovery, an overriding sense of loss
will pervade most of the people affected. This can and
has already led to great sadness. Sadness is grief and
can lead to depression, which can destroy the emotional
lives of people.
is an emotional response to a loss. The loss could be
anything that a person held close and dear to themselves.
It might be a loss of a pet or dearly loved person through
separation or death. It could be a marriage on the rocks
or the closing of a business that had been the dream
of a lifetime.
to that grief vary with the individual and with the
level of importance, the person has attached to the
person or thing lost. For some the grief comes slowly
and sneaks up quietly like a thief in the night, taking
not material things, but stealing the very heart from
the unaware. For others grief hits like a sledgehammer,
pounding the very will to live from the spirit.
will be an aching or a wrenching of the soul, sometimes
accompanied by terror. The feelings of confusion, shock,
and disbelief never seem to go away. They linger like
black, ominous clouds, bringing depression, pain,
and even contempt for one's own life.
grieving individual may be able to identify feelings
of despair, sadness, anguish, and extreme moments of
longing for the past. Sometimes they may experience
one or more of these feelings, either one at a time
or many simultaneously. The overwhelming feeling of
emotional pain seems to be without end, and often there
is an acute feeling of hopelessness. However, for most
individuals, time is a healer.
situation is unique and different. There are personality
differences and value systems that differ with each
individual. While one person may truly resolve their
grief in a relatively short time, another may still
be "hanging on" years later. It is the latter
individual with whom therapy is required. What is the
relationship involved in the grief process? How strong
were the ties? Is the grief out of proportion with the
relationship? Hypnotherapy can quickly address these
issues and, where appropriate, bring about resolution.
one's familiarity with grief can be an asset or a liability.
The undertaker, for example, will be better able to
confront the loss of a loved one than the teenager who
has never had a loss in his life. The loss of pets during
childhood, distant relatives, and others who are "not
too close" all aid in learning about grief. Many
learn from parents and relatives that they MUST grieve
in a dark and despairing way. How and what did you learn
is no socially correct or definite pattern for grieving
and the process of healing, but we do know that an individual
must heal in order for life to go on. Generally, three
major phases can be clinically defined.
comes shock. Shock is there even when loss is anticipated.
Second, comes a period of disorganization and disorientation.
This is the period where the therapist can be of great
service. Third, either on their own or through therapy,
the grievers begin to reorganize and get on with the
rest of their lives.
onset, what the griever needs most is understanding,
information and someone to talk with. Friends and relatives
tend to want to avoid discussion. While they are seemingly
sympathetic, they actually get tired of hearing about
"it." Yet, our most important function is
to listen -just listen and ask questions that will encourage
the patient to get it all out. At this time, it pays
to be a friend and confidant.
the grievers will dissociate themselves from the incident
to suppress feelings of guilt, rage, or other socially
"unacceptable" emotions. They may have an
incredible fear of their own mortality. This could result
in denial and suppression of needed emotions. In order
for an individual to live healthfully, he must move
through and out of the grieving process, and hypnotherapists
can help them do so.
the period of disorientation, it sometimes seems as
though the individual's brains are like scrambled eggs,
and a cloud of doom surrounds them. They often cannot
see beyond the very moment and may even have difficulty
living in the moment. Part of this may be because they
are holding tenaciously to the past for some reason
and therefore cannot or will not look into the future.
Without a future, life can be grim.
very important processes must happen so that their lives
can go on. They must begin to disengage the past and
start building their future. One process that works
exceedingly well is called Time Line Therapy. It is
a very efficient way to resolve the past and build a
future with a minimum of emotion and a maximum of forward
in the time line process, we have the client release
and resolve any old issues associated with the grief.
Brighten the incident and any associated incidents.
Then we have the client retrieve prior feelings of wellbeing
and bring those feelings into future memories. Finally,
we have the client associate into the future memories,
then dissociate so that the positive feelings generalize
in his life. It also helps the client to further create
the future by moving toward activities that he may have
always wanted to do or has enjoyed previously. In this
way, the client looks to a future rather than a past
to move away from. It can make all the difference in
biggest problem that I see from this kind of grief is
that the terrible feelings attract sad or grieving energies
of earthbound spirits or soul-mind fragments and the
situation will lower the grieving persons psychic
defense system (Guardian Chi) so these sad energies
can attach to them. Then they have to contend with not
only their problems, but also with the problems of those
who have attached to them, bringing their own sadness
to compound what is already there. If this happens,
the grieving person will never stop grieving because
he is expressing the grief of the attachment. This can
lead to all kinds of serious problems, including severe
competent hypnotherapist will treat not only the grief
itself, but be aware of grief energy attachments that
may take up residence in the one aggrieved. Just treating
the grief alone can leave even more important negative
energies behind that can mess up the client for years
afterwards. So, if you grieve, make sure that you not
only deal with the grief, but also check for attachments
to be sure that you are clear and safe for the future